Bullying

This part of mini rugby web is all about bullying.

bullyingBullying is wrong.

Bullying will not be allowed in YOUR club.

We must all work together to stop bullying…

What Is Bullying?

Anyone who repeatedly tries to hurt, scare, annoy or exclude another person is a BULLY.

It is really important to tell someone about bullying so that it can be sorted out as soon as possible.

Below there are some examples of what bullying might be like…
Hurt: hitting, name calling, mimicking etc.
Scare: shouting at, threatening etc…
Annoy: hiding gear, making faces at, teasing etc.
Exclude: not talking to, not sharing with, not picking for teams etc..

stop-bullyingWhere Can Bullying Happen?
Even though bullying can happen anywhere, at sports clubs it is usually in four main areas.

Below there are some examples of what bullying might be like in different places… It is really important to tell someone about bullying so that it can be sorted out as soon as possible.

  • Changing Rooms: pushing, not talking to, hiding gear, threatening, name calling etc…
  • When Playing: not passing to, criticising, not picking for a team, off the ball stuff etc…
  • Buses: not sitting beside, “keeping seats”, singing about, throwing things at etc…
  • During Free Time: excluding others, taking the ball away, name calling etc…

Bullying can happen anywhere and at any time but try to be sure that it really is bullying.

It is really important to tell someone about bullying so that it can be sorted out as soon as possible.

If you think you are being bullied:

  • You must talk to someone: any coach, Mum, Dad, a friend etc.
  • Make sure you don’t arrive too early and are picked up at the right time.
  • Stay with friends you can trust: you will have help nearby and will be much safer
  • Tell the bullies that you are going to talk to someone who will seriously look into your problem.

tell-coachWho can help me?

As bullying can happen anywhere and at any time you need to know who you can talk to.

It is really important to tell someone about bullying so that it can be sorted out as soon as possible.

  • At Home: Mum, Dad, granny, Granda, brother, sister, friends will all want to help.
  • At Rugby: any coach will help you. Try your own coach who knows you well.
  • On Buses: The driver, any coach, or parent helpers will be able to help,
  • At School: your teacher and Principal have our phone numbers and will call us if you want.

What Do I Need To Say?
It is really important to tell someone about bullying so that it can be sorted out as soon as possible.

When you do tell a coach or Mum or Dad, they will want some important information.
REMEMBER: “W5”

  • WHO…is bullying you?
  • WHAT…are they doing to hurt you?
  • WHERE…is it going on?
  • WHEN…does it usually happen?
  • WHY…do you think it is happening?

Try to have a friend with you when you tell.

Make sure what you say is true… YOU don’t want to become a bully.

What Do Bullies Look Like?
bullyBullies look just like normal people…

Sometimes they can be BIG;

Sometimes they can be small;

Sometimes they can look like best friends;

Sometimes…they can look just like YOU!
Am I A Bully?

Do you ever pick on the same person too much, even if it is “just for fun”?

Do you allow others to be stuck all on their own when you are playing with a group of friends?

Do you ever take a joke too far?

Do you only pick friends or good players all the time when playing games?

Do you just stand back and watch when you see bullying?

If your answers to these questions were NO, NO, NO, NO and NO ….you’re probably not a bully.

 

What About The Bully?

“Bullies” will be asked for their side of the story.

The coach will keep notes and must inform both sets of parents.

If bullying is found, coaches have choices like:

Giving the bully a chance to make up / improve;

Suspending the bully from minimaxi;

Expelling the bully from minimaxi.

Coaches will be fair to everyone involved.